Why Are Women Disconnected From Their Pleasure?
A really strong thread and narrative that arises in the spaces that I hold, and will continue to arrive in the many spaces I am yet to hold is why women are disconnected from their bodies and from their pleasure.
There is this energy that is continually rising for women who are awakening and it is why these women who are longing to reconnect to the pathways of pleasure step into my world
The women who arrive in my space are yearning to reawaken their dormant pleasure energy. They yearn to reawaken the pleasure portals in the body and remember the true essence of their being. They are ready to return to the vibrant, radiant, energetic expression that is their trueness.
There are many reasons why women are disconnected from their pleasure.
Firstly we can begin to recognise there are ancient stories that are passed down through the mother line and through the feminine consciousness on the planet.
We can begin to recognise the old echoes of stories and beliefs that have been so deeply woven into each individual. We recognise the patterns through each family system, the collective, and the cultural energy that we exist in.
Safety
Safety is such a huge part of being able to access and be open to pleasure.
When we feel safe, we can open to joy, sensuality, sexuality, and to orgasmic states in the body and in the being. Safety is a huge part of being able to feel safe to open to the rapid river of energy that wants to move through the body in the expression of pleasure.
Women can often feel suppressed by the inner narratives and stories that they carry.
Suppressed by the stories of the family line. Stories that have been passed down through the mother line and the narratives around womanhood:
what it means to be a woman
what you should / should not be,
what you should / should not be doing
how you should or should not be expressing your creative power, your pleasure, and energy.
All these impressions and imprints limit women. Keeping them small, locked bound, and trapped in these shackles, binding the inner narratives that have been passed down. The stories and the narratives have been pressed into the feminine consciousness.
They are carrying ancestral beliefs.
Ancestral beliefs
We are created from our parents through cell division, them from their parents, and so on. Thus creating a family chain of energy and experience that are held in the cells and this information is passed down - an inheritance of cellular memories
We are all carried in our mother's womb, encased in her emotions we feel what she feels and all the family feel. We then adopt and falsely conceive beliefs as truth as we have been exposed to it on a cellular level or heard it through the family system beliefs.
All the women in the family believe this story or narrative or have been told to believe this around their pleasure, so I must do the same.
“It's just what we do. It's just who we are. That's what we believe”
So, it gets passed on and on and on until someone, somewhere down the chain chooses a different choice and that is usually the choice of the women that are stepping into my spaces. They are actively choosing to make different choices to break free from the chains and the shackles.
And if you are reading this blog … then maybe that's you too.
The women who step into my space have often been told that pleasure is wrong and sinful.
This can come from religion or a sense of oppression in the feminine. This can come from the culture within society, to be told it's wrong, dirty, and shameful.
Women are then disconnected from their bodies. Often living and existing from the mind. Ruminating in thoughts, overthinking through anxieties, depression, or completely disassociated and disconnected from the body.
There is a disconnect.
Women have been severed from their heart, their womb, and their physical body, and from the felt sensation and experiences that are here, they shut down their feelings and deny their feminine nature.
We experience a disconnect between the body and the womb, which usually comes from a need to shut down feelings.
You are too much
The women that have stepped into my space, have often been denied the full spectrum of feminine energy and the feminine nature to feel safe. They have often been denied the right to feel palatable, to feel worthy, to feel enough, and that they are not too taking up too much space.
They often feel like they are too much to handle and fall into this ‘good girl’ to please the environment around them.
These women have disconnected and have shut down from the river of love within.
At one point, when that river of energy was flowing freely in the body and the heart was open, and the pleasure pathways were vibrant, an experience told her it was not safe.
This is not okay. It is dangerous here. You are not welcome here. That expression is too much here.
There was a shutdown and the locking down of the heart and the pathway and river of love, that yearns to express the feminine energy through a woman's body.
The ability to receive.
Women often have disconnected from their ability to receive.
It is only when we're truly open in the dance of relationship with life, with self, and with others, can we truly open to receiving.
They don't feel worthy of experiencing joy, pleasure, ecstasy, excitement, or bliss.
They somehow believe that they don't deserve to feel these embodied ecstatic emotions and that they are only worthy of pathways of pain, discomfort, grief, and sadness.
They carry shame, deep shame stored and held in the body, the heart, and the womb.
It is your birthright to feel and embody pleasure.
You may have felt in life experiences that you needed to protect yourself. To be a warrior and be self-sufficient. Not allowing you to fully open yourself fully to the nature of life, to the nature of the feminine.
You have forgotten that is their birthright to feel and embody pleasure.
This is a deep journey of remembering.
When we arrived back into our body, we remember. We remember that it is our birthright to be in the fullest, truest, most alive expression of ourselves.
It is our gift to the world to express the most vibrant, energetic, and alive parts of ourselves.
It is our gift to be rooted and embodied in our being.
It is our gift to be grounded in our body to activate and awaken pleasure, joy, energy, and expression to live, love, to create.
From that place inside of ourselves. is to truly feel alive.
To be alive in life and every single expression that comes our way.
This is the journey of embodied awakening.
I write this blog after a very potent retreat which was a very powerful opportunity for us all as women to arrive back into circle and ceremony and really honor the beauty of the multifaceted, multidimensional experience of the feminine. It is an experience to really truly embody our being, our wholeness in full liberation.
I'm so honored to have been witness to the transformation that took place, and this is not a new feeling or experience for me.
This is the alchemy.
This is the awakening that takes place in all the containers, retreats, immersions, and masterminds that I curate because they are all created with this intention.
This is an invitation to the women who are ready to reclaim, remember, and embody their pleasure and awaken into the river of ecstasy that is within.
We will be journeying deeply into activating and awakening the pleasure pathways in the body in our embodied awakening activation.
EMBODIED AWAKENING COMING FEBRUARY 2023
If you're feeling the call, if there's any part of your being and soul that is yearning to live more in your pleasure to release the stories, the narratives, the beliefs. To Unbind and Unshackle from the conditions of your family system, your culture, your societal systems, and all of the impressions that have been placed upon you.
This is your call into liberation.
I am here to guide you into that.
Love Rebecca x